I am overwhelmed and heartbroken and trying to be strong for my children as well as his elderly parents. My B-I-L took his life recently. He struggled with depression , PTSD, and alcoholism for years, but it’s still a shock. Beyond being sad for my sister and nieces, I’m also just sad.
- Sexual and emotional abuse, addiction, codependency, all were part of our relationship.
- Those people there sound really brainwashed.
- We are human and imperfect and sometimes we just get life wrong.
- I disliked Art loooong before he killed his wife because he proved himself to be a liar, a self-centered jackass, and an all-around psychopath many years ago.
- Get the living will signed for those kids asap!
- And I know she made sure the house was extra smoky to upset me.
Earlier this year my abusive violent father died. I had chosen not to see him since my parents got a divorce/separated when I was 12 and he got married to another woman shortly after. I was an only child and so was he, so when he died his widow (whom I’ve never met) didn’t notify me of his death and had a speedy 30 minute wake before buring him 24 hours after his death. I found out about his death by chance over a week later. It was a bit ironic to me that he got away with atrocious child abuse and was sentenced for something else at the end of his life. I felt extremely lonely picking up his death certificate and medical death certificate.
I Make Art Until Someone Dies
I think what’s worse about more info it all is that Art did not even bother to contact his immediate family members (except for his mother-in-law) about his new bride or move to the Phillipines. No phone calls, or goodbye was expressed to his two brother-in-laws, two sister-in-laws and his two nephews after 14 years of marriage. We weren’t even given an opportunity to go through any of Mona’s personal effects to gather momentos of her life with us. It was as if we had no history or relevence to him.
Lets Be Grief Friends
I am hurting so much and wonder if I should have gone. However, I stand by my decision as one of no intent to hurt, but more of a last moment seeing my mom. It saddens me and I realize we all grieve differently.
Art Bell’s Wife Dies Unexpectedly
Out of no disrespect at all, he was sure he could not bear to see her again. I, however, was torn with my decision on whether I should or not. I let my brother know that I really did not know what to do, but since the visit to see mom was more than a week or so away, that I would carefully think about it and let him know very soon. People with chf can occasionally have low oxygen to the brain which can make them say irrational, mean things….if she indeed said that. Maybe your brother misunderstood her words or misquoted. I would find a way to talk to your mom about your sister’s passing, not confrontational, but an open way that might lead to you having some closure.
But my in laws believe I’m having the time of my life. And hoping I get a heart attack so I could be with my husband. So my husband’s elder brother took care of the arrangements. As soon as we knew we could transfer him back home… my parents also paid for their tickets to fly back with me. His younger brother didn’t have enough money so my mom paid for his ticket, as well.. So my parents just spent $10,000 on 3 tickets.
It’s not right, it’s not fair and he didn’t deserve to take pictures of those he was trying to hard to remove in the first place”. I started randomly breaking down during the whole process asking myself why am I crying or screaming “I fucking hate you so much” and punching / throwing things out of pure anger. I get she didn’t want to see me in this light but I really needed her to just stop. It’s really hard to comment on this. It is really hard to talk about a loved one’s death, whether the person is someone I love or someone else’s. When my Dad died two weeks after we found out his cancer had metastasized and he supposedly had 6 months to live, I was beyond devastated.